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Teen Lying Resources and Parenting Quiz: Is Your Teen Lying?

Wednesday February 6, 2008
Teenagers, even good teens, lie about things to parents for a couple of different reasons. They want their privacy, they want more freedom and feel they deserve to have it, and they make mistakes that get them into trouble which they need to get out of by lying. While parents may take lying about these issues seriously, teens, on the other hand, do not think it is a big deal. It is a parent’s responsibility to teach their teen that lying is a serious issue. But how can you tell if your teen is lying to you in the first place? Check out our screening quiz.

More: How To Tell If Your Teen Is Lying to You | Help Your Teen Regain Trust

What do you recommend a parent do when a teen is continually lying? Should parents discipline their teens for every lie?

As I recommended on this blog post about teen lying: 'Sometimes you just need to stand your ground and continue to give the same consequences for each lie until it sinks in that you are not going to waver ‘the next time’ either.

I would also look for the cycle of lying that she is in. Where does the lie begin? Talk with her about how to break that cycle, what does she think she can do to keep from having to feel like she needs to lie and how does she feel you can help her. Sometimes our children have great insights to these matters and we just don’t realize that we just need to ask. '

Have you caught your teen lying to you? What did you do? Tell us and/or give your advice in our comments area.

This blog post is part of the Mommy Monthly Carnival.

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Comments

March 31, 2008 at 5:21 pm
(1) DARLENE says:

MY 13 YR OLD STEALS FOOD AND LIES ABOUT IT WHEN CONFRONTED

April 1, 2008 at 2:42 pm
(2) chris says:

you guys are over protective parents….
u all are *****

April 4, 2008 at 7:38 pm
(3) Alisha says:

okay umm parents are soo protective these days.
like why cant you just let your kid go out and have fun as long as there staying good kids.
its so stupid the rules that parents make for their kids cause they think there gonna go overdose on pills or some retarded stuff liek that.
holy crap just let ur kid have fun so u can have an honest open relationship wtih ur kid and be aware of what shes doing while talking about if she knows how to keep things under control.
or else your kid will hate u and you will have such a bad relationship where they keep on lying…. duh.

April 16, 2008 at 11:10 am
(4) Joanne Fletcher says:

The thing about it is that I don’t know when he’s lying, he’s very good at it and I’m very easily manipulated. He gets it from his father who’s an excellent liar. I never know when to believe him!

April 16, 2008 at 11:52 pm
(5) Pajama Mommy says:

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April 17, 2008 at 10:53 am
(6) Selina Poff says:

I have caught my daughter in lies 3 times, all about boys. I told her she isn’t old enough to have a boyfriend and she tells me they aren’t “going out” is the term used today for having a girfriend/boyfriend, they are just friends. I want her to be able to tell me anything, why does she keep doing it and what can i do so she doesnt feel she has to lie to me??!!

May 20, 2008 at 11:40 pm
(7) chase granum says:

If your daughter thinks she’s ready to date then you should let her. Nobody knows her better than she knows herself. Being her parent doesn’t mean you always know what she is and isn’t ready for.

June 19, 2008 at 1:43 pm
(8) Kisa says:

i took the test and its inaccurate in its questions. i look down because, well have you seen icey silver eyes glaring at you about to rip your head off? i don’t like contact with them because they don’t understand, and they just get mad at me whatever i say. truth or not. and its usually the truth. and im always defensive about people geting into my personel life, if i want to talk about it, i will. so this test is very inaccurate. besides, everyone needs their personnel space. mostly i agree w/ alisha.

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